Saturday, July 19, 2008

Big May be Beautiful BUT...

I know most people see fat people as ugly, gross, whatever. They do NOT see the beauty of within. Isn't that what we are all supposed to focus on? Remember the term "Don't judge a book by it's cover"?

Well, in my musings and thoughts for today, I realized I am totally happy with my inner self. I am totally happy with my outer self. But I must admit that when I see myself in a mirror, I remember what I used to look like and I like that vision better. SHAME ON ME.

But honestly, most people think fat is ugly. Well, no wonder, with how the American media perpetuates slimness. OMG, they made Kate Moss a super model, and she was only skin and bones, and in my opinion looked extremely sick.

But, the point I am going to make here, is no matter what we think of ourselves, we all DO need to take society and the brainwashing it has received into consideration. We must NOT be totally self centered.

Today I flashed on something I saw a few years ago, and shame on me, but it grossed me out. My hubby and I were at the Boat Drag Races in Red Bluff, CA with our teenage sons. There was a woman there that was about 5'4" and had to have weighed 350 pounds easy. Ok, no biggie, there are a lot of us that are really overweight. My issue was the way she dressed.

She had short shorts on and a bikini top which barely covered her nipples. There were a gazillion rolls anywhere you looked. She had stretch marks EVERYWHERE. Her boobs were barely bigger than her back boobs. The short shorts were way too tight, and her legs showed extreme cellulite which looked like popcorn. I should have gotten a picture. She might as well been naked for all she covered up!

Ok, kudos to her for being self confident and loving herself enough to wear anything, but here is my objection...

I weigh about half that and I am taller than her. I would NEVER consider wearing a bikini top EVER, much less her entire outfit, ESPECIALLY in a crowd. I do have pride. I wear shorts, but not the kind that go up my butt crack and show my crotch. I have respect for other people. I know they don't want to see a spectacle. Love yourself, love your body, but don't subject the rest of us to it.

Oh, and by the way, I felt the same way about all the skinny girls wearing really short skirts and barely covering their ta-tas. They were mostly young, and wanted the attention, but that is as bad as the fat woman wearing what she did.

Why do young women (and some older women that are scared of being old) feel the need to have men ogle them? Why do women feel that they need a MAN to accept them for them to accept themselves? I just don't understand that...

My point is this...

HAVE SOME RESPECT FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR BODY. No matter what shape it is.