Saturday, August 30, 2008

A Rose With Any Other Name...

I was talking to a co-worker the other day and she was telling me how she had to take her kids (two were hers, 3 were her step children) to the grocery store. As she was trying to herd them all into the store, a woman was coming out, and with her nose held high she commented "WELL! At least I knew when to quit!" Lisa was appalled, and I don't blame her. Some people are so inconsiderate and unthoughtful. That woman didn't even know Lisa's circumstances yet she couldn't resist making a snide comment.

Which reminded me of an incident with my youngest son when he was about three. We were standing in line somewhere, and in the line was a VERY large woman. I weighed about 170 at the time, and she outweighed me by at least double. My three year old saw her and tugged on my shirt. I looked down and in a normal voice he said, "Wow, Mama, that woman's FAT!"

Before I could even respond, the woman says "THAT was rude. I don't believe how some people raise their kids to be so hurtful." My son got scared at the vicousness in her voice and I went ballistic. I told her "He is ONLY THREE YEARS OLD. He sees the world as it is and isn't old enough to know about tact. He calls 'em as he sees 'em. You, on the other hand, are just mean and cruel and by the way...a rose called by any other name is still a rose!" I then turned to my son and said "When you're old enough, I will teach you about honesty and how sometimes the truth hurts people, so we need to be careful what we say out loud. But you did NOTHING wrong."

The other people in the line gave me an applause!

My point with all this is accept yourself as you are. And if you don't want people (much less 3 year olds) making comments, CHANGE it! I don't know that woman's circumstances, but all my son did was point out a fact. There were no assumptions or accusations. It is rediculous to think a three year old was being rude and trying to hurt her feelings.

What if he had pointed out someone else that was very fair skinned and he said "Wow, Mama, that person is REALLY white" or a really tanned person and said "Wow, Mama, that person is really dark"? I hardly think they would consider it rude or hurtful. Or better yet, what if he pointed to someone and said "Wow, Mama, that person is REALLY pretty!"

Like I said, he calls 'em as he sees 'em. And, well, a rose by any other name...

Monday, August 25, 2008

Weebles Wobble...

I went to work today in an outfit I don't wear often. Now I know why. As I walked towards the entrance, I saw a reflection of myself in the ceiling to floor windows.

I looked EXACTLY like a "Weebles Wobble!" When I realized what I looked like, I laughed like I haven't laughed so hard in months!

Do you remember those "toys" from the 70's? The figures were round to where "Weebles wobble but they don't fall down." That was the phrase on the commercials for them. They had no arms and no legs, they were just kind of egg shaped, and if you touched them they would wobble, but because of the way they were made, they could never "fall down" or tip over.

Now that you have that image in your mind, think of me. I looked JUST LIKE one of those. My arms were at my sides so they blended in with my fat torso. I did have legs, but I still looked like if you tried to knock me over I would just wobble and not ever fall over.

I told my co-workers and (as most people will cuz they don't understand) most of them said "Oh, no you don't" trying to spare my feelings. I don't need sympathy, or people trying to make me feel better about who I am. I accept who I am, and what I look like! But I was hoping someone would share the humor I saw! Only one gal did, because she sees life as it is. And when she laughed, I knew she was laughing WITH me, not AT me. God bless her!!!!!!!!!!!

I just love the fact that I can laugh at myself. I also love the fact that I am fat enough now that I am not at that weight stage where people wonder if I am pregnant or just overweight.

When I was about 170 pounds, I wasn't "fat all over"...I was just fat in my tummy area. So I had NUMEROUS people ask me when my due date was. That was way more humiliating and unacceptable to me than people just thinking I was fat. No one asks that anymore (when my due date is.) I'm not sure if it's due to my age, or due to the fact that I weigh 20 more pounds, and my face and the rest of my body looks fat now. Either way, I don't care. See me as fat, not as "I wonder if she is overweight or having a baby." Main reason being, my first pregnancy I weighed 130 and only gained 20 pounds! At 7 months pregnant I wore a size 7.

Needless to say I won't be wearing the outfit I wore today again for QUITE a while~!